Having a low or declining libido is a fact that is very common among men of all ages. With the hectic lifestyle of the present day, it is quite normal for males to complain about a lack of sex drive even in their twenties.
But the key is to differentiate low libido from perceived low libido. Many individuals tend to put a number on the times they think they should be having intercourse in a week or in a month. These numbers are arbitrary, and should not be used as a gauge for determining sexual drive.
Two people should be happy and content with each other, and if this is the case, the frequency of sex really should not be an issue. But if one finds that they are not content with their sex lives, then this is something that needs to be addressed.
There are many elements that can play a role in reducing libido for men. Most of them lifestyle related, but the importance of psychological factors should never be neglected.
Stress seems to be the common factor that binds together almost every disorder known to mankind! And this is definitely true in the case of a diminished sex drive.
The hormones such as cortisol which are secreted in the body in response to physical and emotional stress can interfere with the production of sex hormones. Moreover, stress can act as a distraction; if one is worried about something at work, it is likely that such an individual may not be able to concentrate on their sex lives.
In this way, stress acts my physiological and psychological methods to reduce libido.
A glass of red wine may work wonderfully well to get a person in the right mood but anything more depresses the cerebral cortex. As a result, it is quite common to experience a drop in libido after binge drinking.
And if one drinks quite regularly in large quantities, this is sure to lead to a decrease in libido.
Medicines that are prescribed for common ailments can lead to a sharp decrease in libido. Although depression itself is a major cause for a reduced sex drive, anti-depressants may also lead to the same results.
Medicines prescribed for hypertension, diabetes and even male pattern baldness can result in a lowered sex drive. If such changes are noticed after starting any new medicine, it should be reported to one’s physician. Alternatives may be prescribed at the discretion of the physician.
It should be added that sometimes it is the disease condition itself that causes the reduction in libido and not the medication. This diagnosis is not easy to make and may need patience on the patient’s part.
It does not have to be so severe as sleep deprivation, but a lack of good quality sleep can also lead to perceptible dip in libido. Sleep is necessary to rejuvenate the body and mind, and a lack of sleep can lead to immense tiredness.
An individual will only feel like taking a nap in this case and not be interested in much else. And the quality of sleep is also an important factor. If one is stressed while sleeping or there are too many distractions that affect the REM sleep patterns, then even this can result in a lowered libido.
Body image issues
Issues related to body image are not something that are restricted to women. Even men quite frequently feel conscious about their physique. Gaining weight, having scars post an operation, losing a lot of weight, all of these factors can contribute to a reduced sex drive.
Obesity can lead to many physiological changes that can affect libido. As discussed above, a lack of self-confidence is one part of it. But that is not all of it.
Obesity can lead to type II diabetes, cardiovascular disorders and also hypertension, all of which can reduce libido. Furthermore, obesity by itself can cause a reduction is testosterone production, which also leads to loss of sex drive. Obesity may also cause bone and joint ailments and such conditions are very painful. They can easily kill a person’s desire to have sex.
Reduced testosterone levels
It is a misconception that testosterone is the only factor/hormone that plays a role in maintaining a healthy libido. But it is most certainly one of the important hormones that regulate a healthy sex drive.
Drop in testosterone levels can be due a number of reasons. Obesity, testicular disease, and testicular cancer, all of these can cause a drop in testosterone levels. This translates to a diminished sex drive.
Anger, resentment and other issues
Many married couples or long time partners cannot connect with each other sexually because they have a host of repressed resentment towards each other. It is not easy being open and vulnerable and loving towards one’s partner in bed if one is angry or disappointed with them.
It is essential to address these underlying issues before one can hope to regain a normal sex drive. A failure to communicate is also amongst the major reasons for couples to be uninterested in each other in bed.
It is true that age is just a number. But it is quite normal for men in their 60s and 70s to experience a gradual dip in sex drive. But other factors should be ruled out in this case are concurrent disease conditions are very much likely at that age.
There many other factors that may be responsible for lowered libido in men. Only when it is identified can it be resolved.